Ohio has opened.
Haircuts are being done, we can go to the gym and of course, out to eat as of the 22nd.
So we have haircuts scheduled for May 30th, we always worked out at home and have no plans to head to a restaurant until we see how emotions sort of shake out here regarding the virus, masks, sanitizing and social distancing.
I have spent a lot of time this week talking to Elizabeth about what social distancing means and why she has to wear a mask around stores, coffee shops and when she is with friends. I think one of the hardest parts for Elizabeth is that seeing the masks reminds her of THE VIRUS. And it reminds her that it is still here. This is where her sensory processing disorder (SPD) comes into play.
I think like anything else with Elizabeth and her special needs, how something is initially presented is really critical. With her global dyspraxia, how something is initially inputed is critical because things become habits quickly and once the habit is formed it is REALLY hard to change it. So, making sure she understands all that she needs to do to be safe, is vital.
I think for those of you who have younger children developing a social story about these things that they will see, have to do and experience will really help them process. For us, we start talking or communicating as early as possible to allow for time to talk again and again as well as answer questions and make concrete plans, such as laying out her mask choices and labeling her container of sanitizer.
This pandemic has really challenged us all and for those who simply wish to answer your child’s question of “when can I see my friend” I have to share that we got to answer Elizabeth’s question with the answer “On Tuesday!”
You see, one of Elizabeth’s friends also happens to be her former adapted PE teacher and the same friend who she works with at one of her internships. She came over to workout with Elizabeth in person instead of virtually as she had been doing twice a week for over a month.
Elizabeth was very, very, VERY happy.
To see her friend.
In person.
I have to say that it was pretty great to be able to look at Elizabeth and see her eyes so bright and be able to say to her “See honey, we said we would do this again. That is would just take time.”
They had a great workout outside in the sun together, while maintaining social distancing and Elizabeth and I made sure that the sanitizer was out on the chair.
They used it and when they came in Elizabeth washed her hands and knew she was not able to hug her friend goodbye, so she just waved.
It was a success. The work we did helped to make it all work out well.
The first visit in our new normal.
I will take it.
I hope you all are well and safe.
Michele Gianetti author of:
I Believe In You: A Mother and Daughter’s Special Journey
Elizabeth Believes In Herself: The Special Journey Continues
Special Needs Essentials Blog 