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As I typed this number, I paused because I can’t believe it is that high.

The changes this week are that we are out of mini muffins, the weather decided to go back to winter in Ohio as it was snowing and the governor closed the schools for the remainder of the year, meaning my son, Michael, will be off until September.

So a rather big week.

Ohh, and there was one more thing.  The school has decided to move to a pass fail system instead of grades.  Three guesses which 14 year old is pretty happy?

So all this focus on school and grades reminds me that Covid or no Covid, we are entering into the season that invokes many an emotion and it is

IEP season

Typically we all know what that means but with all the changes and the situating in place, the usually required meeting will be challenging.

So once you find out how your school system is planning on accomplishing this either by calling them or emailing your child’s intervention specialist, you can begin to plan.

I always recommend rereading your child’s IEP and seeing where gains were made and where your child struggled and make notes as you go.  The thing here is that for most, the school year was interrupted and so much of the assessments are not done, which puts things into a gray area.

Maybe your child’s teacher is using their last assessments to base future IEP goals or they may add in the work that your child completes during their remote learning.  But the question that stands out is will these assessments be accurate for your child needs?

It is a tough time for an IEP and made tougher because of the lack of assessments during day to day encounters.

I feel that the parent’s observations will take on a huge role in planning the IEP because YOU see your child everyday and currently witness their successes or struggles with each and every assignment.  YOU see how long they can maintain concentration for and when they have had enough.  YOU see how they can or cannot process they assignments given.

YOU are now the one who has become an educator as well as parent.  With these two things combined, YOU are a wealth of information for the intervention specialist.

Reread the IEP-

I cannot stop myself from repeating this because I feel so strongly about it.  Knowing goals and where your child stands is critical when you are talking about future plans

Take notes- 

Write down what you see, hear and notice for your child.  Write down their emotions and meltdowns.  Write down pretty much anything that helps the school see how they are handling their work as well as the remote learning aspect of it.

Think about next year-

One thing that has been noted is that the broad swipe that wiped away the school year did not really take into account those with IEPs and special needs.  Because remote learning is not easy to do and for those with special needs it can be really anxiety producing.  Let alone, the anxiety it produces for the parents/care givers as they deal with that and with trying to prevent regression of skills.

Now might be a good time to think about how to best address your child’s needs if remote learning becomes a part of school for next year.  We don’t know if that will be the case or weather it will be a small part of their day but the fact is, being prepared is always better than not being prepared.

I hope everyone is safe and staying strong.  I know I am working hard on the last one some days!! Stay home if you can!

Michele Gianetti author of

I Believe In You: A Mother and Daughter’s Special Journey

Emily’s Sister

Elizabeth Believes In Herself: The Special Journey Continues





If I asked you what day it was, what would you say?  I think I would have to ask one of my children who would look on their phones and report the answer back to me.

I, myself, find our living so surreal.

We all typically love being home, but find ourselves seeing our home as a shelter from “the virus”

We typically love being together as a family but now find ourselves mostly seeing only each other’s faces.

In our state, spring is just arriving.  So that means the trees are starting to bloom, the flowers are starting to show themselves.  It all looks so pretty and full of life, which contrasts directly with what is going on in our world.

With the change of seasons comes a mental list of all the things that spring brings THAT WE CANNOT DO.  It is like we have to reorient that list because the backdrop to our Shelter in Place has changes.  In the last month, we have gotten used to understanding our new, temporary I pray, normal.  But there is something about spring arriving that brings brightness and hope and immediately requires  my brain to say…

WAIT!, REMEMBER YOU CAN’T…..insert spring related item here…..

This change in thinking is something that Elizabeth and I are talking about as we walk.  I know that she is feeling the same things that everyone else is because she asked me when the pool will open….so I am using our walk times to keep the chatting going. I think for us, this kind of talking/communicating is helpful because it is helps Elizabeth adjust what she thinks should now be happening with our continued reality.

We talk about feelings, make a list of the things we want to do when we are permitted, the fun she will have at work with her friends, later.  We talk because each day for Elizabeth brings feelings that I am learning NEED to be talked about today.

Then again tomorrow.

And the next day.

And the next day.

With Elizabeth’s special needs, talking about what to expect helps her make that mental transition more smoothly as well as vents her frustrations.  Her sensory processing disorder ( SPD) and its resulting anxiety can become a big player in her days, so talking about what to expect and how to adjust can help lower that anxiety.

I keep telling myself that I know I  am always mentally recalculating life and it is hard work!!  Let alone the special needs that our children face added in to the mix.

Since we cannot make the world fit the needs/wants of our special needs child, it is like we have to help them, as best we can, to understand and work with the world we all find ourselves deeply entrenched in.

I will share that Elizabeth’s telehealth last week went really well.  I have notes from Mary from it, that I need to make the brain space to process.  I will do it soon, but I cannot say exactly when.  We all know, life with a special needs child takes a lot of work minus this pandemic but becomes whole thing with it.  I also know we will always do our level best for these beautiful special children that we have!

So Corona day 24 is bringing in a new level of reality, maybe a bit more permanence as we leave one season behind and enter a new one.

Please stay safe and stay home if you can!

Michele Gianetti author of:

I Believe In You: A Mother and Daughter’s Special Journey

Emily’s Sister

Elizabeth Believes In Herself: The Special Journey Continues







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